Quoting Damon A. Getsman to All on 31-Jan-2015 16:49 <=-
The other factor that needs to be taken into account with the setting that we're currently in is that we're _still_ couchsurfing. That is, there are no separate rooms, there's no real place for us to put our stuff, and the person who was kind enough to let us stay with him had
the place full to the brim of his stuff when we got here. So there's
not really enough space in this place to do anything with toys, and usually it's in unacceptable condition for inviting anyone over here.
He reads his books, but he reads through them so fast that I
can't keep up. I have located a local library here, which will, no doubt, help a bunch, but that's just not done yet. Due to the issues that I had, I was unable to get out of the apartment for quite some
time, which really held us back in some of those areas.
So. On to helicopter parenting. This was actually a term coined
by my friend 'Neuro', a user on this BBS. It's a term used to describe the latest phenomena of parents who don't let their kids have _any_ unstructured or unsupervised time. While this can be great for learned skills, it can be terrible for having a kid ready for the real world.
I wouldn't worry so much about being called an incompetent parent,
when I'm giving him the experience and the skills that he needs to survive, if I had a job, my own place, and everything right now. As
it stands, though, the last thing that I need is CPS looking into the situation. I mean everything is legit, but it's not like I have any
sort of real leg to stand on showing that I'm a 'Fine Upstanding Citizen'(tm) brand American Single Parent.
Long story short, I don't know what to do about
it other than to keep pushing for a job, now that I've got myself
stable, and get the hell out of it. I just wish there was something I could do quicker. There's plenty of meet-ups, but my vehicle being
gone now is making that rougher, especially on school days.
It's good you have a roof over your head, but granted, that's still nowhere near an ideal situation...
Have you considered getting him some sort of electronic book reader,
and downloading books for him...? Or is that out of the question financially...? How far away is the library...? It's a shame that things are less safe than they were back when I was a kid... I used to hang out at the local library all the time, could walk there from
Some of it is driven by the kids wanting to be involved in all sorts of things, from music to sports to other activities.... but many parents
tend to push kids into things they aren't really all that interested in, to be sure. I suspect that part of it came from having smaller families so that that sort of running around on the parents' part was even feasible... when you have 5 or more kids, it's harder to go in all the different directions... and, besides, the kids have siblings to go out
and play with. Not to say that only having one child is a problem in itself, it just makes it more difficult to find other kids to play
with... (Coming from someone who is the oldest of 8 kids, and ended up only being able to have one child...)
Keeping him clothed and fed and in school should go a ways in showing
that you are a proper father, however... and the other hopefully will come as you are better stabilized and can find a decent job... :)
Sometimes one just has to keep plodding, one foot after another, and
hope the goal is eventually met... :)
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