Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 14-Aug-2015 06:55 <=-

Re: Summer plans was: shinies and sickies
By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Thu Aug 06 2015 14:19:14

Continuing....

And learning to work through the agoraphobia is a very good exercise. :)
The knitting could be useful, too... ;) And having something to keep
your mind and fingers occupied can get the mind off the fears as well...

'Tis one of the reasons that I picked up making hemp necklaces and bracelets. I think it'll be very good for the same things. :) Plus
it's always nice to have hobbies where you can put actual effort into gifts for friends or loved ones, instead of just picking up crap. Unless, of course, they have a specific need for aforementioned crap,
or a piece of crap that they've very much been coveting for some time. Anyway, you catch my drift I'm sure.

Quite so. :) And that sort of thing can be a fall-back too when the
meds issues arise... as long as you have enough focus to find them...

Bravo on the accomplishment... :) Keep that in mind to balance out the
insecurities that are sure to arise again... :) A few more triumphs
like that, and maybe you can dispel the naysayers in your mind... :)

Well... Things didn't go exactly as they had seemed at first,
actually. There've been some more minor triumphs, and some big quagmires...

Sounds a lot like life to me... ;0 But if you can focus on the
triumphs instead of the quagmires, you'll be able to deal with the
latter better... :)

I think I need a few more nice big triumphs before I'll
be totally secure with this. I got a call from my contract holder the other day and I was FREAKED OUT because this marketing person has
picked me as her target because she doesn't understand tech and.... I guess she scheduled me for a phone call with another marketer (who was supposed to be answering code-level questions for me-- yeah right), and then never told me about it, never got my RSVP of 'No' sent several
hours early, and didn't get the email that I sent about not going for
the pointless and expensive (for them) phone call. So needless to say she was pissed with me and 'filed a grievance'. Luckily, my contract holder kind of hates her, and has my back (and that of my teammate).

Sounds like your contract holder (who's the one that really counts here)
is the person to pay attention to... the marketroids can be ignored
most of the time, especially their inanities... ;) As long as those
that really count have your back, the grievances won't be any sort of
issue... Kinda like the kid threatening to sic his mom on you when you
and the mom already have an understanding that you are the adult in
charge when the kid is in your company, and any reasonable discipline is
quite in line as far as she is concerned... :)

He even put some new rules in place about stupid crap like that in
order to avoid future frustration, and thanked us for putting up with their crap. So while I'm not as secure as I was there for a bit, I'm doing better with it again. God the workplace drama. I'm so glad I'm working from home; though it might help better with strategy to see
that marketer in person so that I could figure out better how to negate the roadblocks that she throws up. Eh, well, life goes on.

In person might only be more annoying, you never know... ;) Although,
maybe, she might throw some clues by body language... which might or
might not be any help... ;) Mostly you probably just have to ignore her anyway... :)

Work's been keeping me busy as hell lately. And, well, med flux has
been screwing me up to the point where I can't concentrate on emails
very well (or haven't been able to until today), so I've procrastinated like crazy. I think I've got at least a dozen more messages hanging around in different places right now. !Viva las cartas!

I KNOW that I have lots more messages to answer... one at a time...
eventually maybe they'll all get answered... :)

ttyl neb

... "Th-th-that's easy t-t-to f-f-fix." "That's easy for you to say."

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Re: continuing was: Summer plans
By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Aug 29 2015 19:00:12

Quite so. :) And that sort of thing can be a fall-back too when the
meds issues arise... as long as you have enough focus to find them...

Yeah I need to find a new bead shop so that I can get ahold of more materials
to finish the hemp necklaces that I have in progress. It would probably be a good idea to find out when that knitting class takes place at the library, too.
Maybe it's something that I can do while D is in school now that he's back there for the session.

Sounds a lot like life to me... ;0 But if you can focus on the
triumphs instead of the quagmires, you'll be able to deal with the
latter better... :)

Always a struggling point for me, but one that I am constantly trying to work
on. Right now I think I need to try to get a little bit of a better hold on the meditation that I've slipped up on. I kind of let it drop by the wayside while I was recovering from my injuries; it always fit in perfectly before or at the end of my physical training, so I've dropped yet another coping mechanism. I've started getting with it again lately, but as with training the
body, the time off takes its toll.

Sounds like your contract holder (who's the one that really counts here) is the person to pay attention to... the marketroids can be ignored
most of the time, especially their inanities... ;) As long as those
that really count have your back, the grievances won't be any sort of issue... Kinda like the kid threatening to sic his mom on you when you and the mom already have an understanding that you are the adult in
charge when the kid is in your company, and any reasonable discipline is quite in line as far as she is concerned... :)

You are absolutely right on all fronts.

In person might only be more annoying, you never know... ;) Although, maybe, she might throw some clues by body language... which might or
might not be any help... ;) Mostly you probably just have to ignore her anyway... :)

Well body language usually at least gives me clues as to what people I'm dealing with like to hear and what they don't like to hear. I'd love to have that advantage with her, but you may be very right as far as her not being very
reasonable in person. I know the office IT job that I had always had a few unpleasant people like that to deal with. 'Course there one of them was my direct boss/former burglar.

I KNOW that I have lots more messages to answer... one at a time... eventually maybe they'll all get answered... :)

Yep. I'm workin' on it, too. :) As always, more soon. ;)

-D
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Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 27-Sep-2015 20:08 <=-

By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Aug 29 2015 19:00:12

Quite so. :) And that sort of thing can be a fall-back too when the
meds issues arise... as long as you have enough focus to find them...

Yeah I need to find a new bead shop so that I can get ahold of more materials to finish the hemp necklaces that I have in progress. It
would probably be a good idea to find out when that knitting class
takes place at the library, too. Maybe it's something that I can do
while D is in school now that he's back there for the session.

That sounds like a good possibility... :) Or if it ends being after
school, maybe he could find things to read at the library while you take
your class... or do his homework there... ;)

Sounds a lot like life to me... ;0 But if you can focus on the
triumphs instead of the quagmires, you'll be able to deal with the
latter better... :)

Always a struggling point for me, but one that I am constantly
trying to work on. Right now I think I need to try to get a little
bit of a better hold on the meditation that I've slipped up on. I
kind of let it drop by the wayside while I was recovering from my injuries; it always fit in perfectly before or at the end of my
physical training, so I've dropped yet another coping mechanism.
I've started getting with it again lately, but as with training the
body, the time off takes its toll.

Maybe you should work on finding some sort of alternate time for doing
it, for when the physical training goes on hiatus for whatever reason...
so you don't lose both coping mechanisms at once... :)

In person she might only be more annoying, you never know... ;)
Although, maybe, she might throw some clues by body language... which
might or might not be any help... ;) Mostly you probably just have
to ignore her anyway... :)

Well body language usually at least gives me clues as to what people
I'm dealing with like to hear and what they don't like to hear. I'd
love to have that advantage with her, but you may be very right as far
as her not being very reasonable in person.

Perhaps a "compromise" would be to meet her once in person, to scope out
the body language, and then just keep that in mind for when you deal
with her on the phone... ;) (yes, a little tongue-in-cheek, perhaps [g])

I know the office IT job that I
had always had a few unpleasant people like that to deal with.
'Course there one of them was my direct boss/former burglar.

There's a story there.... ;)

I KNOW that I have lots more messages to answer... one at a time...
eventually maybe they'll all get answered... :)

Yep. I'm workin' on it, too. :) As always, more soon. ;)

Yup... As long as we keep them flowing, pretty much, shouldn't get TOO
far behind, either one of us.. ;)

ttyl neb

... I'm a little tagline. When I grow up I wanna be a novel.

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Re: Re: continuing was: Summer plans
By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Thu Oct 01 2015 18:47:54

That sounds like a good possibility... :) Or if it ends being after school, maybe he could find things to read at the library while you take your class... or do his homework there... ;)

I'm working with figuring out what the least painful way to get my porksuit out of the house will be at this point. Nothing is off of the table. :)

Maybe you should work on finding some sort of alternate time for doing
it, for when the physical training goes on hiatus for whatever reason... so you don't lose both coping mechanisms at once... :)

Aye, I'm trying to diversify my interests a bit at this point, that weakness has definitely failed me too many times.

Perhaps a "compromise" would be to meet her once in person, to scope out the body language, and then just keep that in mind for when you deal
with her on the phone... ;) (yes, a little tongue-in-cheek, perhaps [g])

Well judging by the fact that she has room in her 2-bedroom apartment for a fully stocked bar, I'm gonna call my initial predictions pretty close to the mark. They ended up getting together the other weekend. She seems like a pretty good person, but definitely still going through her partying phase. The
kids had a great time, though. I'm gonna have to get the place cleaned up here
so that they can see each other outside of school again soon.

'Course there one of them was my direct boss/former burglar.

There's a story there.... ;)

Oh you have no idea how tangled that particular web is. I really need to finish that book... *laugh*

Yup... As long as we keep them flowing, pretty much, shouldn't get TOO far behind, either one of us.. ;)

Well, I'm struggling a bit, as you can probably tell at this point, but I'm trying to chip at things every day at least. Hopefully my blockage clears soon
and I'm able to get through a more decent amount at a better clip.

-D
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Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 12-Oct-2015 19:26 <=-

That sounds like a good possibility... :) Or if it ends up being
after school, maybe he could find things to read at the library while
you take your class... or do his homework there... ;)

I'm working with figuring out what the least painful way to get my porksuit out of the house will be at this point. Nothing is off of the table. :)

I'm sure that you'll work out some good options... :)

Perhaps a "compromise" would be to meet her once in person, to scope out
the body language, and then just keep that in mind for when you deal
with her on the phone... ;) (yes, a little tongue-in-cheek, perhaps [g])

Well judging by the fact that she has room in her 2-bedroom
apartment for a fully stocked bar, I'm gonna call my initial
predictions pretty close to the mark. They ended up getting together
the other weekend. She seems like a pretty good person, but definitely still going through her partying phase. The kids had a great time, though. I'm gonna have to get the place cleaned up here so that they
can see each other outside of school again soon.

I think there's a crossed wire there... I was talking about the person
from work you were dealing with, not the friend's mother... ;) However,
it's a good thing that the kids did get together and had a great time...
And yes, facilitating their being able to get together at your place is
also a good idea... :) Hopefully the mom will indeed grow past this
phase, and turn out ok...

'Course there one of them was my direct boss/former burglar.

There's a story there.... ;)

Oh you have no idea how tangled that particular web is. I really
need to finish that book... *laugh*

Crazy life... ;)

Yup... As long as we keep them flowing, pretty much, shouldn't get
TOO far behind, either one of us.. ;)

Well, I'm struggling a bit, as you can probably tell at this point,
but I'm trying to chip at things every day at least. Hopefully my blockage clears soon and I'm able to get through a more decent amount
at a better clip.

Chipping away works... ;) Keeping a flow in the echo is part of the
scheme, after all... ;)

ttyl neb

... Brainstorm? No, but I had a braindrizzle once

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Re: Re: continuing was: Summer plans
By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Fri Oct 16 2015 14:48:34

I trust that by now you have received a small deluge of messages that were queued up while Rob Starr's system was down. :) I feel like I'm playing UNO or Skip-Bo here and just dumped a whole load of cards on you. Heh. With the slam of messages that I got when you returned prior to that, it almost seems like a game of trying to bury one's opponent at times. ;)

I think there's a crossed wire there... I was talking about the person from work you were dealing with, not the friend's mother... ;) However, it's a good thing that the kids did get together and had a great time... And yes, facilitating their being able to get together at your place is also a good idea... :) Hopefully the mom will indeed grow past this phase, and turn out ok...

Oopthieoopth. Yeah I'm definitely working on getting things to the point where they'll be able to hang out here again, as well, and more often. Actually Deschain has recently requested his first serious extra-curricular activity, too, and I'm pretty sure I can manage the fee on that at this point, so hopefully things run well for that, also.
The mom has my best wishes, for sure. I'm wary of the situation that she's in, and the different things that she's doing (some of which are trickling out in her son's behavior-- much like my own son's reflect my own), but I'm also rooting for the best for her. I can only remember my own misery when I was in a comparable situation; and some people can actually run their lives like that,
I have to remember. I'm special with my weakness. ;)

need to finish that book... *laugh*

Crazy life... ;)

At least one thing has remained constant through all of it, right? ;)

Chipping away works... ;) Keeping a flow in the echo is part of the scheme, after all... ;)

Indeed. I'm going to try to keep a little bit better tabs on things from here on out. Got some evil withdrawing of work hours going on again, so I've got some more time to manage that, at least.

-D
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