Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 12-Aug-2015 12:00 <=-

Re: Re: stressful
By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Thu Aug 06 2015 13:40:44

Stubborn isn't all bad... <G> If she can turn her stubborn to getting
better, we should be fine... ;)

That is absolutely true. I've seen some stubborn relatives of mine
push through things that I never would've thought possible. Not to mention a few things that I don't even think the doctors would've ever thought possible. Hell, my adoptive father ended up being the textbook case of the longest life lived with Kartagener's Syndrome. He was a stubborn... well fill in the rest of that sentence with whatever you like. I have scars on my head from banging it with his up through my early adulthood. *grin*

I can all too well imagine... <G> Guess he turned at least some of
that stubborn to good use for himself... :)

"But I read it on the internet... it HAS to be true..." <G>

I'm not sure which is worse, the people that say that, or the ones
that tout FAUX News as an unbiased outlet to be taken at literal value
at all times.

Yes. ;)

I have a friend who tends to want to talk things out with me, at least
in part because somewhere along the line I can get her to laugh... see
the humor (even if it's just a twist on it, or dark humor) in the
situation... even if she'd thought there wasn't anything good at all in
the situation...

Yeah I had some friends like that, still do, actually, but they're
all thousands of miles away. Although I have a relationship like that with my roommate quite a bit, but having a bigger circle of friends is still a loss. It's always good to hang out with somebody who can at
least get you a cynical chuckle at whatever chips have got a person
down.

Have you totally lost contact with those other friends...? Or can you
still call (or email) them if you really need their perspective...?

Mostly joking... partly, though, along the lines of: even if you aren't
planning to take him along, the sort of place you could would probably
be a healthier place for you... :)

Well you're probably right about that. Then again, my chances of
meeting potential suitors in a place like that are about 5000% higher than anyplace else I'm going to go, and I'll admit I'm desperate. Not like commence sexual relations with a cigar & Monica Lewinski
desperate, but desperate for at least a little bit of validating flirtation and *keep your fingers crossed* maybe even a chance at a bit of a relationship/friendship.

Desperate can get you in trouble, you know... ;) Admittedly, sometimes
there can be decent people to meet there.... but generally it turns out
to have been a mistake... :)

As long as they are suitable suitors... <G>

Those are notoriously difficult to come across in the standard meatmarkets. I'm trying to make sure that I do my research on the different places so that I'm not dealing with too much drama. Not
that it's avoidable in the club scene.

Meatmarkets of just about any sort can be problematic anyway...

And did you get there finally...?

No. :( I'm a broken record on this, but I've always got an excuse.

Eventually the stars will all be in place and it will happen... ;)

This time it's that the VA messed up my meds again, and I was
agoraphobic enough to not really be able to get out and get that
program initiated. At least the money is in place now, though, and the meds are restabilizing in my system. So as soon as I'm able to go out
in public again without carrying my shell on my back or finding a rock
to scuttle under, I should be able to get there soon. Ugh I feel
pretty bad about that, actually. Yet in a way it's a good thing that
I'm not in yet, because you pay whether you go to sessions or not, so
if I would've been in already, and not comfortable enough there, the agoraphobia then would've meant a lot of wasted money there. I
could've at least taken Deschain to his practices, though. *sigh*

It would have been nice to get Deschain into it... but it will come when
it comes... :)

We got to the church to socialize and are making it about 50% of the
time now, though, at least.

And that is progress... :)

And/or you are earning too much by then... and/or are in a better
neighborhood where the hanging out is safer as well... :)

Wait wut? You mean by next summer?

I think so... ;) [Working on recalling the thread...] Yup... :)

ttyl neb

... Cheerful pessimist: expect the worst then meet it with a grim smile.

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Re: STRESSFUL (was: stressful)
By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Wed Aug 26 2015 20:06:52

I can all too well imagine... <G> Guess he turned at least some of
that stubborn to good use for himself... :)

Yeah, it worked out in his favor, if nobody else's. ;)

Have you totally lost contact with those other friends...? Or can you still call (or email) them if you really need their perspective...?

Well there are a couple of main ones in particular that I still keep in very close contact with. People in my inner circle I've never really let drop by the wayside. I've got plenty of experience moving around, and good people, in my experience, are just too rare of a gem to just let fall by the road. The problem is that some of them aren't the same as far as good text communication as most of them are. It's a shame, but hopefully I get to visit the ones that aren't as good at text communication soon. I'd do the phone calls, but I absolutely loathe them. Regardless, I should probably set apart a little bit of my day for that now and then, though.

Desperate can get you in trouble, you know... ;) Admittedly, sometimes there can be decent people to meet there.... but generally it turns out
to have been a mistake... :)
Meatmarkets of just about any sort can be problematic anyway...

Oh I'm well aware, and 95% of it is from personal experience. So far I haven't given in to any of those urges. I actually met somebody that I hit it off with really well, with an _amazing_ amount of similar interests, as well. The problem was that once I started realizing how well we were clicking it, due
to a conversational faux pas, ended up reminding me of my last serious relationship and it really squicked me out. We fell into a different communication pattern, and I'm not sure if we're going to meet or not now, but I guess that doesn't matter a whole lot since it kind of makes me think that I'm not ready right now. Not sure if she's in the plain old friends market or not right now. :P

Eventually the stars will all be in place and it will happen... ;)

Yeah I wish I had more of a budget for improving the quality of life for D & myself right now, but at this point my accounts are flagged as 'no unnecessary expenses' until I've got a paycheck guaranteed coming in again.

It would have been nice to get Deschain into it... but it will come when it comes... :)

Indeed. The endless cycles of life.

We got to the church to socialize and are making it about 50% of
the time now, though, at least.

And that is progress... :)

Yep. When things were down we missed about three weeks, though. I'm really looking forward to going tomorrow, though. Should be fun. :)

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Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 26-Sep-2015 16:49 <=-

By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Wed Aug 26 2015 20:06:52

Have you totally lost contact with those other friends...? Or can you
still call (or email) them if you really need their perspective...?

Well there are a couple of main ones in particular that I still keep
in very close contact with. People in my inner circle I've never
really let drop by the wayside. I've got plenty of experience moving around, and good people, in my experience, are just too rare of a gem
to just let fall by the road.

For sure... Good that you've been able to keep contact with them... :)

The problem is that some of them aren't the same
as far as good text communication as most of them are. It's a
shame, but hopefully I get to visit the ones that aren't as good at
text communication soon. I'd do the phone calls, but I absolutely
loathe them. Regardless, I should probably set apart a little bit of
my day for that now and then, though.

I spend a lot of time on the phone.. not always my favorite thing, but sometimes that's the easiest way to cover a lot of territory... ;)
Visits can be even better, but sometimes those are harder to make
happen... :)

Desperate can get you in trouble, you know... ;) Admittedly, sometimes
there can be decent people to meet there.... but generally it turns out
to have been a mistake... :)
Meatmarkets of just about any sort can be problematic anyway...

Oh I'm well aware, and 95% of it is from personal experience. So
far I haven't given in to any of those urges. I actually met somebody that I hit it off with really well, with an _amazing_ amount of similar interests, as well. The problem was that once I started realizing how well we were clicking it, due to a conversational faux pas, ended up reminding me of my last serious relationship and it really squicked me out. We fell into a different communication pattern, and I'm not sure
if we're going to meet or not now, but I guess that doesn't matter a whole lot since it kind of makes me think that I'm not ready right now.

It's one of those balance situations... being able to separate what's
just baggage from before from what might be true red flags... and not
letting baggage mess up what might be a totally better situation... nor ignoring danger signs that suggest things aren't heading in the right direction.... :)

Not sure if she's in the plain old friends market or not right now.
:P

Those are the best ones to have when life is unsure... they can build
into something more as time goes along... but one can wait to be sure of
things before gettin too involved... If she is in the plain old friends market, that could be a very good sign... :)

Eventually the stars will all be in place and it will happen... ;)

Yeah I wish I had more of a budget for improving the quality of life
for D & myself right now, but at this point my accounts are flagged as 'no unnecessary expenses' until I've got a paycheck guaranteed coming
in again.

Understood.

We got to the church to socialize and are making it about 50% of
the time now, though, at least.

And that is progress... :)

Yep. When things were down we missed about three weeks, though.
I'm really looking forward to going tomorrow, though. Should be
fun. :)

And did you make it there...?

ttyl neb

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