Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 02-Aug-2015 18:03 <=-
Re: Re: stressful was: misc and parents, etc...
We're working on her to realize that.. ;) At 85, she can get a bitIt's good that you've got that... Recovery from injuries like that
stubborn... but I've been feeding back to her some of her earlier
advice to us... ;) Plus, I've had the experience of having to have
therapy to heal from a broken ankle to utilize, so she can't say I
don't understand... <G>
is no joke... I hope she tones it down a little bit. :) I know all about the stubbornness that can creep in, though. I've had a couple of adoptive relatives make it just to or over 100 and yeah, they kind of embodied those sorts of qualities. Heh. At least one was a really
good person, though. ;)
Kinda what I was getting at... even the firsthand can be spun, and/orIt's good to talk with other people that understand that. I've got
edited...
some friends that I just can't take news links or anything else of the sort from anymore because they don't have a critical filter or
something.
Yeah the body language is what makes that possible, definitely. A
lot of those crotchety people don't want to be unhappy and complaining, they just want someone to listen to them, and then maybe even some laughing about it. :)
I know it. I'll only drink seltzer water, but it's gonna happen.
My social life has been way too bereft for way too long now.
Hopefully a place you can take the kid to... ;)Not sure if you were joking or not, but I'm actually planning this particular kind of outing more for myself than a family thing. ;)
I dunno, I actually kind of miss the club atmosphere, though I'm sure that'll disappate within a few short minutes of being there. Unless,
of course, I'm rapidly approached by female suitors or something.
We'll see where it goes. heh.
We did make it out to a UU church
congregation today, though. Two out of three weeks now. Things are slowly getting better both for him and I. Keep your fingers crossed
for getting to Aikido finally tomorrow.
Who knows... he might actually end up enjoying the stimulation of summerI think he did, actually. It's just a shame that I couldn't get him
school, too.. :) And he'll get over the drama... especially if you
aren't reacting to it the way he wants... ;)
into it sooner this time around. Now that I know that all of that is budget adjusted as well I won't make the mistake unless he's got a huge cluster of friends to hang out with by next summer. :)
Stubborn isn't all bad... <G> If she can turn her stubborn to getting better, we should be fine... ;)
"But I read it on the internet... it HAS to be true..." <G>
I have a friend who tends to want to talk things out with me, at least
in part because somewhere along the line I can get her to laugh... see
the humor (even if it's just a twist on it, or dark humor) in the situation... even if she'd thought there wasn't anything good at all in the situation...
Mostly joking... partly, though, along the lines of: even if you aren't planning to take him along, the sort of place you could would probably
be a healthier place for you... :)
As long as they are suitable suitors... <G>
And did you get there finally...?
And/or you are earning too much by then... and/or are in a better neighborhood where the hanging out is safer as well... :)
Stubborn isn't all bad... <G> If she can turn her stubborn to getting NB>better, we should be fine... ;)
Quoting Daryl Stout to NANCY BACKUS on 19-Aug-2015 21:34 <=-
Stubborn isn't all bad... <G> If she can turn her stubborn to getting
better, we should be fine... ;)
Sort of like a billboard noting a large percentage of men will "die
of stubbornness"...meaning they won't make the trip to the doctor to
get checked.
Quoting Daryl Stout to NANCY BACKUS on 19-Aug-2015 21:34 <=-Happens to women, too... And in either case, if there's family or
Stubborn isn't all bad... <G> If she can turn her stubborn to getting
better, we should be fine... ;)
Sort of like a billboard noting a large percentage of men will "die
of stubbornness"...meaning they won't make the trip to the doctor to
get checked.
friends to push back and come along with, it can be overcome and turned
to better... ;)
Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 31-Aug-2015 23:33 <=-
Sort of like a billboard noting a large percentage of men will "dieHappens to women, too... And in either case, if there's family or
of stubbornness"...meaning they won't make the trip to the doctor to
get checked.
friends to push back and come along with, it can be overcome and turned
to better... ;)
I'm that way too. Never cared for doctors much. While it's hard for me
to ask I do enjoy and feel better about going if someone decides to go with. I guess it's nice to feel your not alone sometimes.
Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 31-Aug-2015 23:33 <=-
I'm that way too. Never cared for doctors much. While it's hard
for me to ask I do enjoy and feel better about going if someone
decides to go with. I guess it's nice to feel your not alone
sometimes.
It certainly helps to have two people to listen to the doctor and to
ask questions... and to remember what was said... ;) I started going
with my friend/neighbor when she'd been complaining to me on the phone after every visit to a certain doctor how bad he was and how he wasn't dealing with what she thought needed attention... Turned out that he really was that bad, so I helped her find a better doctor... But then
I went with her to all her doctor visits thereafter, even with a new better doctor... it made helping her remember what was going on easier
for me... :) And she appreciated having the company...
I've long felt that it's important to have a doctor that listens to
you, and that accepts you as an equal partner in your care... I've
been fortunate over the last couple of decades to have all my doctors
be that way... it makes the thought of going to see them a lot less onerous.. :)
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Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 01-Jan-2016 14:10 <=-
03 Sep 15 18:20, you wrote to me:
Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 31-Aug-2015 23:33 <=-
I'm that way too. Never cared for doctors much. While it's hard
for me to ask I do enjoy and feel better about going if someone
decides to go with. I guess it's nice to feel your not alone
sometimes.
It certainly helps to have two people to listen to the doctor and to
ask questions... and to remember what was said... ;) I started going
with my friend/neighbor when she'd been complaining to me on the phone
after every visit to a certain doctor how bad he was and how he wasn't
dealing with what she thought needed attention... Turned out that he
really was that bad, so I helped her find a better doctor... But then
I went with her to all her doctor visits thereafter, even with a new
better doctor... it made helping her remember what was going on easier
for me... :) And she appreciated having the company...
I go to the doctors as little as possible. Recently though I decided
to "Bite The Bullet" and drive myself to the hospital. I wasn't in
pain really. Just didn't feel right. Turns out (They told me) that I
had a total blockage of blood feeding the heart muscles. And that I
made it to the hospital with minutes to spare. That was reaffirmed by
how fast they were rushing me down the halls on the gurney. They used their little "Roto Rooter" machine to clean my pipes. <g>
I've long felt that it's important to have a doctor that listens to
you, and that accepts you as an equal partner in your care... I've
been fortunate over the last couple of decades to have all my doctors
be that way... it makes the thought of going to see them a lot less
onerous.. :)
The doctor that I had seemed to be nice. He seemd to be someone
that a patient could actually hold a conversation with.
Did I mention that I really HATE hospital beds. That was the most uncomfortable thing to even try to sleep on. Which isn't helped by the folks that stop by every couple hours to see if your still alive. <g>
Im doing ok but can't handle stairs or hills very well. Guess my
plans to be a mountain climber are shelved.
The sad thing to me was being a dad and having none of my kids showing
up or at least calling. I did get a glad your ok msg after I got back
home from one though.
Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 07-Jan-2016 15:57 <=-
Sounds like that got caught just in time....! Pain isn't the only
symptom that one should be paying attention, just the most likely to
be an attention-grabber... unless one has been dealing with chronic
pain all along... ;0
To be honest I was at first tempted not to go to the hospital. I
pretty much have some degree of pain all the time. For me it's a combination of migraines, damaged knees, arthritis in most joints, bad back, among other things.
But, I have never been one to let my physical situation(s) to
limit what I want to accomplish. The reality though is that it is
getting harder to keep that attitude. It's pretty much a matter of
having a 30's mind stuck in a 60's body. <g>
I think myself self aware enough that I sensed that it wasn't just a matter of being in pain. Which I wasn't really. My chest didn't hurt
much at all. It was more a combination of new sensations that suggested something else might be amiss.
I've long felt that it's important to have a doctor that listens
to you, and that accepts you as an equal partner in your care...
I've been fortunate over the last couple of decades to have all
my doctors be that way... it makes the thought of going to see
them a lot less onerous.. :)
The doctor that I had seemed to be nice. He seemd to be someone
that a patient could actually hold a conversation with.
Did you get to follow up with that doctor, or was he just a
hospitalist...?
A follow up? Yes, but not with the same doctor. The other doctor was a
tad less comunicative but was ok
Well, I couldn't get any sleep the first 36 hours laying in the bed. Trying to leave the bed was an major issue with the collection of wires and tubes involved. The bed actually had an air matress that everytime
I would slightly change positions. The compressor would start up to
change the pressure. With a resultant werrr... WERRR... werr... I
finally told the nurse to turn the thing off. The bed was more firm but
at least tollerable.
Im doing ok but can't handle stairs or hills very well. Guess my
plans to be a mountain climber are shelved.
Glad you've come through it ok... maybe with some good cardiac rehab
you'll be able to at least manage hills... or even a small mountain or
two... ;) I'm not good on stairs either, though... but my problem is
mostly my ankles and knees... broke the one ankle (back in 2005), had
to stay off it for 10 weeks so damaged the other knee... and then the
opposite ones tried to compensate, to their detriment as well... ;)
Same thing here with knees. Some years ago I unwisely tried to make my knee bend sideways. I ended up tearing the menicus which doesn't heal
once dammaged. As a result of babbying the knee for a time the other
knee suffered.
The sad thing to me was being a dad and having none of my kids
showing up or at least calling. I did get a glad your ok msg
after I got back home from one though.
At least one of them cared enough to let you know...
I have been far from a pefect father. And I know and acknowledge and
take responsibility for the mistakes that I have made. But I love all
my kids very much. I have come to accept that for some "Family" means something differant. It hurts to hear from one of your children that
you love that "I don't need you". That doesn't change or diminish my
love. It just makes me sad.
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