• second part Re: misc and parents, etc...

    From Nancy Backus@1:2320/100 to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Jun 27 18:32:02 2015
    Continuing with the missing reply... ;) This more parenting and misc...

    Well, I've got a little programming in my upbringing that I'm trying
    to work over as far as insecurities and the like. I think I've done pretty well working to stretch into my 4th decade, though. There is
    also the fact that I've turned around a great many personal habits that were valid points to be insecure about, as well. While I may not be at
    a perfet spot yet, there would be a steep climb in my rate of
    improvement over the last 6-7 years from the background that I'd previously had. It's something to be proud of, and I suspect that that rate is being kept high due to my son. I guess what I'm trying to say
    is I don't know if I'll ever quash them and become the Buddha, but I'm doing my best at making sure that I can deal with my insecurities.

    I doubt any of us would become the Buddha... but learning how to manage
    the insecurities is probably useful enough... :)

    Thank you for the well wishings... :) She's continuing to do better,
    growing stronger and able to do more things independently again... we
    still have to be there just in case, and for the stabilizing hold now
    and then... so I'm still taking some shifts of care coverage. When she
    went for her followup visit to the surgeon to get the staples removed,
    he was quite pleased with her progress, and pronounced it a success.
    I'm very glad to hear that all went as well as can be hoped for. :)

    Progress continues, though slowly... She always has been slow at
    bouncing back, anyway... Now we just have to figure out how we are
    going to manage her care when we go camping as an extended family...
    some will be in tents, some in cabins, so at least we aren't going to
    have to worry about how to deal with her in a tent... <G> But there are
    a few other logistics still to work out... :)

    I used to spend a whole lot more time on some of those web-based networks. It's taken me multiple years, but as my priorities have
    changed I've really found that I don't want that time sink either. I find often these days that I'll wake up, and when I first get bored
    I'll open some tabs to those different sites. As a little bit of time passes, though, or once I scroll a screenful or three, I find that I could really care less about the content on there, and I don't really have the motivation to add content that I really find meaningful
    myself. Those media seem to be the equivalent of background static to
    me these days. I find more and more that I'm missing a day, or two, or even three, before I know it, in days that I have those tabs open and sitting and waiting.

    From what I've seen, there's not a lot of meaningful content... even
    when meaningful things are being shared...

    These kinds of forums, the text-based ones, I
    don't think I'll ever totally unplug from. There's far too much depth
    of character and feeling that's expressed here that doesn't work its
    way into the different web-based social media as often. I always have
    to love being able to jump to a different echo and get my 'cantankerous a-hole' quota of the day with just a couple of keystrokes, too. ;)

    As long as you do it in the appropriate echoes... ;)

    My issue lately seems to be more dealing with the world as it has progressed in the decades where I've been too plugged in for too long.
    I think back to different eras in my life, particularly when I was
    living on some urban property in Jersey, and I remember how easy it was to make an entire neighborhood full of aquaintences within a really
    short number of days. You could just walk up the hill and spend an afternoon doing that, with or without a case of beer to share to lube
    the communication flow, and before you knew it it was nighttime and you still had half of a block unexplored going in the opposite direction
    for the next day. Maybe I'm making up the reasons for this in my head, but I can't help but see social media as being somewhat responsible for this. People think they're a million times more plugged in to the happenings in others lives and the like, but if you put them all in a room what do they do? They all reach for the smartphone and start blogging about what's going on, instead of meeting new people IRL.

    You might be just a bit cynical there... but I've seen the same thing, actually... :) It's still possible to meet one's neighbors in person,
    but it takes more effort, and people aren't nearly so much in evidence
    as one walks down the street anymore, either...

    ttyl neb

    Postscript... since originally writing this, my mom fell and broke her
    hip... on the 22nd... she's doing pretty well recovering from that,
    though... we brought her back home (to my sister's) yesterday, and I'm
    finally able to get back to Fido, at least a little... It does mean
    that she won't be going camping with the family, though... since sites
    and cabins are already rented, most of us will still go camping
    anyway... neb

    ... Me, indecisive? I'm not sure about that.

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  • From Damon A. Getsman@1:2320/100 to Nancy Backus on Sat Jul 11 09:53:02 2015
    Re: second part Re: misc and parents, etc...
    By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Jun 27 2015 18:24:32

    I doubt any of us would become the Buddha... but learning how to manage the insecurities is probably useful enough... :)

    Well doubting it may be the most prodent course of action, but as an aspiring
    Buddhist I'm gonna go for the whole 9 yards here. ;)

    Progress continues, though slowly... She always has been slow at
    bouncing back, anyway... Now we just have to figure out how we are
    going to manage her care when we go camping as an extended family...
    some will be in tents, some in cabins, so at least we aren't going to
    have to worry about how to deal with her in a tent... <G> But there are
    a few other logistics still to work out... :)

    Things slow as we get older, too. Not a whole much that can be done about that except keeping the factors ideal that really matter. Definitely sounds like a good idea to keep her in one of the more plush areas.

    find meaningful myself. Those media seem to be the equivalent of
    background static to me these days. I find more and more that I'm
    From what I've seen, there's not a lot of meaningful content... even
    when meaningful things are being shared...

    Very true. Except when something like Ferguson pops up. Then you've got a horde of people that are managing to do a really good job of getting the stories out that the mass media are ignoring, or at least doing their best to be distracted from. Some of that stuff I really value. But the everyday content that used to be so nice and shiny to me a few years back... It's just rough, tarnished sand to me now. I don't know what to do with it, and I don't really have enough interest to care. I'm much more interested in meeting IRL people, and not having to wade through a ton of memes and other foolish crap before I get there.

    my 'cantankerous a-hole' quota of the day with just a couple of
    keystrokes, too. ;)
    As long as you do it in the appropriate echoes... ;)

    Oh well I've gotten into the fray before, but I try not to do anything like that any more. I say my 'cantankerous a-hole' quota of the day because for some reason really cranky folks put a smile on my face sometimes, as long as I have a little bit of room to get away from them. So at this phase in my life it's really more of just watching someone else chuck the hornet's nest around, rather than doing it myself.

    You might be just a bit cynical there... but I've seen the same thing, actually... :) It's still possible to meet one's neighbors in person, but it takes more effort, and people aren't nearly so much in evidence
    as one walks down the street anymore, either...

    Social media has done a lot of wonderful things, especially making it easier to stay in touch with relatives and the like. At the same time, it's made it easier to 'think' that you're in all the communication with them that matters, when really a few words on a keyboard don't have an ounce on spending a few hours with someone in person. We're losing the art of conversation with some people that've been too isolated in these environments, and I think isolation as a whole is definitely up on the rise, at least in the more developed countries, because all they need is their facebook now.

    Sorry, it's been a busy and stressful few weeks. I know I've still got a horde more than I'm waiting on replying to. Hopefully I can get to them soon here.

    -D
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