Quoting Damon A. Getsman to All on 07-23-14 10:17 <=-

Ugh. I need to go back aways and look at the discussion threads
that I dropped when my server cut out for so long... I know I was in some discussions that were quite detailed, and that I had responses waiting for my reply... Gahhh

Hey, there... welcome back....! <G> Yup, I'm still waiting for your
reply, patiently... ;)

Regardless, I am quite glad to be back here in one of the FIDONet
civil echoes; especially one that gives me such productive and useful information, physically and emotionally.

We try, anyway... :)

Glad to see y'all.

Good to see you back. :)

ttyl neb

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Re: Re: I'm back on this one,
By: NANCY BACKUS to DAMON A. GETSMAN on Mon Jul 28 2014 12:31:00

Ugh. I need to go back aways and look at the discussion threads
that I dropped when my server cut out for so long... I know I was ...etc etc etc...

Hey, there... welcome back....! <G> Yup, I'm still waiting for your reply, patiently... ;)

OMG, yeah, discussions with you were always some of the best. I'm gonna have
to scroll back; my message base has been corrupted a few times due to the lightning storm that I had arcing through my hardware in the oil fields. Are there any threads in particular that we were talking about that you can recall weren't responded to, just in case?

Regardless, I am quite glad to be back here in one of the FIDONet
civil echoes; especially one that gives me such productive and
useful information, physically and emotionally.

We try, anyway... :)

Nope. You succeed. :)

Good to see you back. :)

Thank you. I'm glad to be back in the area where good discussion, and good people, reign. Too many of those landmine and air sortie patrolled echoes and demilitarized zones will suck the life right out of me, as far as motivation to
discuss in FIDONet is concerned, if I don't make sure to balance it with places
like this. :)
I'm looking forward to more good discussion again. :)

ttys

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Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 07-29-14 15:10 <=-

Ugh. I need to go back aways and look at the discussion threads
that I dropped when my server cut out for so long... I know I was
...etc etc etc...

Hey, there... welcome back....! <G> Yup, I'm still waiting for your
reply, patiently... ;)

OMG, yeah, discussions with you were always some of the best. I'm
gonna have to scroll back; my message base has been corrupted a few
times due to the lightning storm that I had arcing through my hardware
in the oil fields. Are there any threads in particular that we were talking about that you can recall weren't responded to, just in case?

I went back into my saved messages, and saw that the last of a real
discussion was a message from me dated 31 January, subject Support.
Then you popped in briefly in early April with a tease about crazy
stories to be told... and then disappeared from sight again... :)

If need be, I probably could extract out old messages from me and
re-send...

Regardless, I am quite glad to be back here in one of the FIDONet
civil echoes; especially one that gives me such productive and
useful information, physically and emotionally.

We try, anyway... :)

Nope. You succeed. :)

Thank you for the vote of confidence... :)

Good to see you back. :)

Thank you. I'm glad to be back in the area where good discussion,
and good people, reign. Too many of those landmine and air sortie patrolled echoes and demilitarized zones will suck the life right out
of me, as far as motivation to discuss in FIDONet is concerned, if I don't make sure to balance it with places like this. :)

The landmine etc places I don't even look at, with the one exception of
one that I merely lurk in, mostly for reasons of my own (some of which I question when things get too nasty even for lurking...[g]) I much
prefer the civil areas... those, to me, characterize FidoNet much better
than the others...

I'm looking forward to more good discussion again. :)
ttys

Hopefully... :)

ttys neb

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Re: Re: I'm back on this one,
By: NANCY BACKUS to DAMON A. GETSMAN on Sat Aug 02 2014 21:07:00

I went back into my saved messages, and saw that the last of a real discussion was a message from me dated 31 January, subject Support.
Then you popped in briefly in early April with a tease about crazy
stories to be told... and then disappeared from sight again... :)

Oh, jeez. I was madly in love. Fifteen years, if you count the time between
our first few years together, when we were talking, and lovers, when we were both single and in the same city. I was in a land that I haven't felt for a very long, long time. I've been working on getting it out how I normally do, by writing, but something is different this time...
I don't want to make the mistake of writing about it before I'm focused more on the compassion that she deserves, for the past that has made her into the person that she is today. I don't want to go out and convict her before a jury
of _my_ peers, as a damn good friend put it.
I try to write, when I decide to pop the wound, and get some of the infection
out, in a balanced manner. I try to weigh what she did, and what I did, in a manner that doesn't favor one or the other. I had a family; a stand-in father,
whose only other living friend died while I was growing tight with him. I had another son, for awhile. Trying to help him is what hastened the end.
I only hope, in the meantime, that I am a better judge of character than my past shows me to be, now that I've seen such a long term set of characteristics
sit in my blindspot for so long.
Right now I can't even get myself to open up to new people. Maybe that's for
the best. It scares the hell out of me now. I will do anything to avoid another relationship where there is active deception, or deliberate withholding
of important, honest, communication.
My story was crazy, and too good to be true. I will tell the details at some
point, but right now I can't go there. It still rips my heart out. First woman that I was ever engaged to, and by far the one that I've been the deepest
in love with.

If need be, I probably could extract out old messages from me and re-send...

Oh, I know the context now. What I will do, when I wake up and I'm not close
to collapsing from complete exhaustion as I am right now, is make sure that I fill you in on the crazy events that took out my ability to communicate for so long there. Egad talk about some crazy indoor lightning storms.

Thank you for the vote of confidence... :)

Not a problem. Right now it's people like you that are keeping me from going
totally out of my skull with cabin fever and isolation right now. I've been in
this new city for just about a month now. Still don't have a job, and there's no regular income where I'm at, yet. My vehicle isn't insured... Social services has thrown up an amount of red tape that I can't surmount without travelling 2800 miles (round trip) to get what they need, and I have to scrabble to make sure my son has food to eat every day.
Still, I consider myself lucky. The person that I am staying with is up front, and honest, and has been a tight friend for over 20 years. If I didn't have him I'm sure I'd be handling this much less gracefully. My confidence, charisma, self-esteem, whatever you want to call it, has been a little bit crushed since June. It's inhibiting my ability to make new friends, too. So the people on the other end of this ASCII are very much appreciated, especially
the thoughtful and decent ones like yourself.

The landmine etc places I don't even look at, with the one exception of one that I merely lurk in, mostly for reasons of my own (some of which I question when things get too nasty even for lurking...[g]) I much
prefer the civil areas... those, to me, characterize FidoNet much better than the others...

Yeah, I just decided to finally just quit scanning a few of those echoes. I'm done with drama and that pointless conflict. I've had enough of that to last a lifetime in every facet of my life; I don't need to choose to read through it here, too. :)
I'll write more tomorrow... Unless I get too busy and get distracted, at which point I'll write you soon as a message from you reminds me that there is decent conversation to be had here. :)
Take care!

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Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 08-02-14 23:33 <=-

I went back into my saved messages, and saw that the last of a real
discussion was a message from me dated 31 January, subject Support.
Then you popped in briefly in early April with a tease about crazy
stories to be told... and then disappeared from sight again... :)

Oh, jeez. I was madly in love. Fifteen years, if you count the
time between our first few years together, when we were talking, and lovers, when we were both single and in the same city. I was in a land that I haven't felt for a very long, long time. I've been working on getting it out how I normally do, by writing, but something is
different this time... I don't want to make the mistake of writing
about it before I'm focused more on the compassion that she deserves,
for the past that has made her into the person that she is today.

I think you'd done a pretty good job of that in our previous
discussion... :)

I don't want to go out and convict her before a jury of _my_ peers, as a damn good friend put it. I try to write, when I decide to pop the
wound, and get some of the infection out, in a balanced manner. I try
to weigh what she did, and what I did, in a manner that doesn't favor
one or the other. I had a family; a stand-in father, whose only other living friend died while I was growing tight with him. I had another son, for awhile. Trying to help him is what hastened the end. I only hope, in the meantime, that I am a better judge of character than my
past shows me to be, now that I've seen such a long term set of characteristics sit in my blindspot for so long.

Lots of history there, to make you what you are now... no doubt also on
her side... What one makes out of it is the question... :)

Right now I can't even get myself to open up to new people. Maybe
that's for the best. It scares the hell out of me now. I will do anything to avoid another relationship where there is active deception, or deliberate withholding of important, honest, communication.

Sometimes it's pretty hard to ascertain that there is that active
deception, of course... One to some extent has to accept people as they present themselves... but there is also certainly the need for
discernment and not being too gullible... :) A balancing act, to be
sure... :)

If need be, I probably could extract out old messages from me and
re-send...

Oh, I know the context now. What I will do, when I wake up and I'm
not close to collapsing from complete exhaustion as I am right now, is make sure that I fill you in on the crazy events that took out my
ability to communicate for so long there. Egad talk about some crazy indoor lightning storms.

Yeah... I think that's where we left off... ;) Seems that craziness
in one form or another seems to follow you around... <G>

Not a problem. Right now it's people like you that are keeping me
from going totally out of my skull with cabin fever and isolation right now. I've been in this new city for just about a month now. Still
don't have a job, and there's no regular income where I'm at, yet. My vehicle isn't insured... Social services has thrown up an amount of
red tape that I can't surmount without travelling 2800 miles (round
trip) to get what they need, and I have to scrabble to make sure my son has food to eat every day.

So you're in a new place yet again... and going through the same stuff
you had to deal with before... sigh...

Still, I consider myself lucky. The
person that I am staying with is up front, and honest, and has been a tight friend for over 20 years. If I didn't have him I'm sure I'd be handling this much less gracefully. My confidence, charisma, self-esteem, whatever you want to call it, has been a little bit
crushed since June. It's inhibiting my ability to make new friends,
too.

Good friends of long standing are a definite blessing.. :) I take it
the stay with family didn't work out well either, then...?

So the people on the other end of this ASCII are very much
appreciated, especially the thoughtful and decent ones like yourself.

Thank you. I've found the decent sorts here in Fido to be a
better-than-family sort of family... caring support and all that... :)

The landmine etc places I don't even look at, with the one exception of
one that I merely lurk in, mostly for reasons of my own (some of which I
question when things get too nasty even for lurking...[g]) I much
prefer the civil areas... those, to me, characterize FidoNet much better
than the others...

Yeah, I just decided to finally just quit scanning a few of those
echoes. I'm done with drama and that pointless conflict. I've had enough of that to last a lifetime in every facet of my life; I don't
need to choose to read through it here, too. :)

Quite. :)

I'll write more tomorrow... Unless I get too busy and get
distracted, at which point I'll write you soon as a message from you reminds me that there is decent conversation to be had here. :)

I'm a little slow in responding lately... but it appears that your life
is pretty hectic too... here's your reminder... <G>

ttyl neb

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