he passed away. I think it took Mom several months to grieve before
she felt like doing any of the activities the place offered but she
is enjoying them now. Also nice that family is close by and can pop
a visit easily.
That's normal to grieve for a few months at first anyway. Glad she is doing better and taking advantage of some of the programs offered.
Actually, 2 people because Dad would close out the letter with
usually a fairly substantual note of his own. Toward the end, he was writing, as Mom's mind was too far gone.
When my Nana passed away that was the end of the letter writing I saw.
She used to write her family back in Alberta and being that they were
from the depression era they used this criss cross way of writing to
get 8 total pages out of one peice of paper.
Even if I had one of her letters, I don't think there is anyone left
alive who can read that. hahaha
brought on the dementia rather rapidly.....looking back, we saw some
signs of it coming on but didn't recognise them for what they were
until too late.
We are glad in a way my sister is a type of nurse so she saw signs
with Dad and for the most part he's okay... mellowed a lot but does
get frustrated when he can't remember something.
We know it's there, but just eat it a little bit at a time, and intersperse other goodies.
I have no will power. ;)
And complaining about the cooking. She gave the kitchen some of her recipies when she first moved in but they've never used them.
treats from time to time. Also, my one sister in law will pick her up
and take her home to do some baking, especially around holidays. Mom
has to have tight supervision when doing that but she does enjoy
writing to get 8 total pages out of one peice of paper.I've read about that being done, especially in the time of the
American War Between the States, on the Southern side.
Takes a special skill to figure it out. Now if everybody wrote in a different colored ink, it might be easier to decipher.
Is his a quiet, gentle dementia? That's what my mom's was but my dad
said that his grandmother had a mean, nasty dementia. It took Dad
And complaining about the cooking. She gave the kitchen some of her recipies when she first moved in but they've never used them.
Laugh. That's to be expected from anyone who cooked. :) They thanked
her and promptly threw the recipes out. Probably have a huge list of ingredients they can't use, and another list of ones they must use to
cook for that many people.
Seasoning?! No, this is for a home. We just boil everything and slop
it on a plate.
treats from time to time. Also, my one sister in law will pick her up
and take her home to do some baking, especially around holidays. Mom
has to have tight supervision when doing that but she does enjoy
That's nice though. I'm sure the SIL pays close attention.
I've read about that being done, especially in the time of thewriting to get 8 total pages out of one peice of paper.
American War Between the States, on the Southern side.
The crazy thing was her husband worked in a printing press and used to
get all the notepads you want from scrap paper. He'd save up the
scraps cut them to the same size and run them through the machine to
stick 'em together. The entire family got free paper for 45 years.
They still criss crossed it. I'm going to ask my mother if she has
any of the old letters from her, and scan one if she does.
Takes a special skill to figure it out. Now if everybody wrote in a different colored ink, it might be easier to decipher.
Plus she had a very "loopy" hand writing style as she was a left
handed person who the teachers smacked until she learned to use her
right hand.
Is his a quiet, gentle dementia? That's what my mom's was but my dad
Mostly yes. He's settled down and even lets the kids climb on him
now. LOL
said that his grandmother had a mean, nasty dementia. It took Dad
He can get nasty, especially with Mom, but she just turns off her
hearing aids so she can't hear him. He has a bell that she can hear without them if he falls or anything serious happens.
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be eaten bu either of them. Multiply it by ever how many people are
in a place like that and you get bland, boring food.
Seasoning?! No, this is for a home. We just boil everything and slop
it on a plate.
That's about right.
Definatly! She's also a nurse and goes with Mom for her medical appointments.
handed person who the teachers smacked until she learned to use her
right hand.
My parents/teachers foreced me to use my right hand for a number of
years; I think I was in my early teens when I switched back. It just
felt more comfortable. Now, to a certain extent, I'm ambidexterous
(or as Steve likes to say, "amphibious").
be eaten bu either of them. Multiply it by ever how many people are
in a place like that and you get bland, boring food.
Exactly! That's why I guessed they didn't use her recipes.
Seasoning?! No, this is for a home. We just boil everything and slop
it on a plate.
That's about right.
:)
Definatly! She's also a nurse and goes with Mom for her medical appointments.
That is quite handy! Same with me I have my sister who's a nurse.
handed person who the teachers smacked until she learned to use her
right hand.
My parents/teachers foreced me to use my right hand for a number of
years; I think I was in my early teens when I switched back. It just
felt more comfortable. Now, to a certain extent, I'm ambidexterous
(or as Steve likes to say, "amphibious").
She never did switch back, but she would have also been quite a bit
older then you, she was born in 1929.
in unless it was working.) I suspect it's now non working but Mom
used it a lot, cooking for herself and Dad, baking (lots of cookies
for the staff), even doing a small turkey one year for Thanksgiving.
Covid killed any travel plans, then my in laws moved up to New York
State.
that a doctor told her if she went by herself, or get things mixed
up, so the (trained) second set of ears is good. I presume you run
things by your sister for verification also.
That was the year my mom was born. Her handwriting was always bad;
walked across the paper. She said that her father was a left handed
but forced to use his right hand child; I've halfway wondered if
that was the same situation for her.
in unless it was working.) I suspect it's now non working but Momgone.
used it a lot, cooking for herself and Dad, baking (lots of cookies
for the staff), even doing a small turkey one year for Thanksgiving.
Very nice! I suspect you are right that the stove is now long
Covid killed any travel plans, then my in laws moved up to New York
State.
New york state is nice.
that a doctor told her if she went by herself, or get things mixed
up, so the (trained) second set of ears is good. I presume you run
things by your sister for verification also.
Oh yes, if something doesn't sound right I call her and let her know
what I was told, and she either has the answer already or will
promptly drive over and figure it out. She lives 5 mins away, I am
1.5 hour drive away so she gets the brunt of the work.
That was the year my mom was born. Her handwriting was always bad;
I can't believe it's coming up on 100. She passed away in 1992 I
believe it was.
walked across the paper. She said that her father was a left handed
but forced to use his right hand child; I've halfway wondered if
that was the same situation for her.
Quite probably!
... Camping (n.): See "Heat Stroke", "Mud", and "Insects".
I'm surprised they actually had one that worked. The kitchen area also
apartment for a small dining table between one side of the kitchen and living room.
My nearest siblings live several states north of here, takes more than
a day's drive.
... Camping (n.): See "Heat Stroke", "Mud", and "Insects".I grew up camping in tents; we called anything else "cheat camping".
You know, I'm enjoying the way I camp now more than the tents. (G)
I'm surprised they actually had one that worked. The kitchen area also
I wonder if a previous tenant smuggled it in? Or paid a whole heck of
a lot extra for them to allow it.
apartment for a small dining table between one side of the kitchen and living room.
That sounds okay.
My nearest siblings live several states north of here, takes more than
a day's drive.
Well I guess I"m lucky. Of course I can't remember the last time I
saw my sister in person... probably 8 years now.
I grew up camping in tents; we called anything else "cheat camping".... Camping (n.): See "Heat Stroke", "Mud", and "Insects".
You know, I'm enjoying the way I camp now more than the tents. (G)
Same here. I'd never want to go back to a tent.
I know at least one other unit (visiting with my MIL) had a stove so I presume more were working at one time. Then, as more people moved in
with Althezheimer's or other dementias, the managment disconnected the stoves for safety reasons.
It worked well for 2 people who didn't get out that much. Before they moved there, they lived in an "over 55" manufactured home community
I saw my sister in person... probably 8 years now.It's been close to that for me.
Same here. I'd never want to go back to a tent.I'd have a hard time getting up from the ground. (G)
I know at least one other unit (visiting with my MIL) had a stove so I presume more were working at one time. Then, as more people moved in
with Althezheimer's or other dementias, the managment disconnected the stoves for safety reasons.
Oh interesting. I know the assisted homes around here only have the shared kitchen / dining room you can book if you are having family
etc. I believe someone has to sign a form stating they are in charge
of the stove as well.
It worked well for 2 people who didn't get out that much. Beforethey RH> moved there, they lived in an "over 55" manufactured home
This is what I wish my parents would have done. Instead they bought a condo townhouse and promptly dad got involved in running the entire
place. Mom got him to step down a few years back though. So now
he's just all alone when she goes out.
been close to that for me.I saw my sister in person... probably 8 years now. RH> It's
I don't feel so bad now. I always think I'm a bad brother, but
whenever I make the drive she is busy, and even though her husband and
her visit a store half a block from here they won't pop in.
I'd have a hard time getting up from the ground. (G)Same here. I'd never want to go back to a tent.
I can still get up from the ground. However I don't enjoy it. :)
Pain levels are through the roof on a good day right now.
meal. Mom has a full size fridge, a small microwave and a full size
sink in her apartment so she can do some food prep on her own but
usually eats in the central dining room.
months later. Dad had been living at home, with a live in caregiver
for about 15 months before then. Now my brother owns the family home.
I can get up, but it takes more work and hopefully something to grab
hold of. Pain levels ebb and flow but are usually manageable with low levels of medication thru out the day.
meal. Mom has a full size fridge, a small microwave and a full size
sink in her apartment so she can do some food prep on her own but
usually eats in the central dining room.
That's not too bad then, at least if she's not feeling like being
around people she can heat up soup or something,
months later. Dad had been living at home, with a live in caregiver
for about 15 months before then. Now my brother owns the family home.
Good that it stayed in the family after your parents had to move out.
I can get up, but it takes more work and hopefully something to grab
hold of. Pain levels ebb and flow but are usually manageable with low levels of medication thru out the day.
I'm in near constant pain now but thankfully I don't need any
medication yet, I just deal with it and limp / move slow / get in
everones way. Once a day I allow myself a smoke of cannabis which
takes the pain away enough I can get to sleep. I had a script for it
for years and years, but gave it up when they legalized it for all use here, it's easier to just walk to one of the many thousand stores.
LOL
True, she is able to get out and shop for her favorite soups, cold
cuts, etc.
Yes, the thought crossed our mind about buying it but we were never
in the place to do so. My brother was so we let him have it.
Yes, the thought crossed our mind about buying it but we were never
in the place to do so. My brother was so we let him have it.
I understand that. I was in a position to buy a family home and I
did, however times changed and I ended up having to sell it. Ah well sometimes life doesn't go the way we want.
Some people do live life the way they thought they would as they were growing up. I think that's a rather small percentage tho; there's
maybe just read about. We'd never thought about living in AZ but
about a year after we moved there, one of Steve's computer friends introduced him to Fido...............and here I am.
do with all the figs we got last year. I remembered the article, went
on a recipes site and found a recipe. It's now part of my cooking "heritage".
Some people do live life the way they thought they would as they were growing up. I think that's a rather small percentage tho; there's
I would agree.
maybe just read about. We'd never thought about living in AZ but
about a year after we moved there, one of Steve's computer friends introduced him to Fido...............and here I am.
Well glad he told you about it! ;)
do with all the figs we got last year. I remembered the article, went
on a recipes site and found a recipe. It's now part of my cooking "heritage".
Very nice!
Yes, I was also in a crafting and a sewing/quilting echo while they existed. I miss them at times but not the negative aspects (that's
all I'll say) of them.
The fig cake is quite popular whenever I bring it to an event. Last
winter I brought it to an American Legion/Auxiliary dinner and had 3 requests for the recipe once word got out who brought the cake.
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